Women’s Ministry Nobody Wants to Talk About – Episode 2
Guest: Evangelist Rosina Jolla
One of the greatest blessings God gives us is fellowship with other believers. Through the Body of Christ, we find encouragement, accountability, strength, and spiritual growth. Yet, if we’re honest, some of our deepest wounds have also come through relationships within the church.
On Episode 2 of It’s Been a Journey Podcast, Evangelist Rosina Jolla joined us for a transparent conversation titled “When Fellowship Turns Into Fractures.” Instead of simply talking about what others had done to her, she courageously shared how God transformed her own heart in the middle of the pain.
That honesty became one of the most powerful moments of the evening.
Hurt Has a Way of Changing Us
Evangelist Rosina shared that after experiencing deep hurt surrounding her child, she found herself becoming guarded and standoffish, especially toward other women.
Not because she hated women.
Not because she wanted division.
But because pain has a way of convincing us that distance is safer than vulnerability.
Many women silently carry that same burden. We smile, serve, worship, and volunteer, but our hearts remain protected behind invisible walls built from disappointment, betrayal, rejection, or grief.
Without realizing it, we begin judging new relationships through the lens of old wounds.
The fracture wasn’t just in fellowship—it had also begun affecting our ability to trust.
God Doesn’t Just Reveal Their Heart—He Reveals Ours
One of the most impactful truths Rosina shared was that healing began when God stopped allowing her to focus only on the people who had hurt her.
Instead, He showed her herself.
That can be one of the hardest prayers to pray:
“Lord, show me me.”
It’s often easier to list everyone else’s mistakes than to examine our own responses. But real healing begins when we allow the Holy Spirit to search our hearts.
David prayed this same prayer:
Psalm 139:23–24 (KJV)
“Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”
Healing isn’t about pretending we weren’t hurt.
It’s about allowing God to remove anything that pain planted inside us—bitterness, suspicion, fear, pride, unforgiveness, or isolation.
God heals us from the inside out.
Check the Fruit, Not Just the Feelings
Another powerful point Rosina emphasized was this:
We have to learn to check the fruit of a person—not simply our feelings about them.
Emotions can be influenced by past experiences, assumptions, or misunderstandings. God’s Word teaches us to look beyond personalities and examine spiritual fruit.
Jesus said:
Matthew 7:16–20 (KJV)
“Ye shall know them by their fruits… Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them.”
The fruit of a person’s life reveals far more than their words.
Ask yourself:
- Do they consistently display love?
- Are they honest?
- Do they seek peace?
- Can they celebrate others?
- Are they humble enough to repent when they’re wrong?
- Do they pursue unity instead of division?
The Apostle Paul describes the evidence of a Spirit-filled life:
Galatians 5:22–23 (KJV)
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance…”
Perfect people don’t exist.
But growing fruit should.
Healthy relationships are built on consistent character, not perfect personalities.
Fellowship Isn’t Always Easy—But It’s Worth Fighting For
Broken fellowship doesn’t always mean someone is evil.
Sometimes people are grieving.
Sometimes they’re immature.
Sometimes they’re carrying wounds they haven’t healed from.
Sometimes it’s simply a season where communication failed.
While not every relationship can or should be restored, every believer is called to pursue peace as much as it depends on them.
Romans 12:18 (KJV) reminds us:
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.”
We cannot control another person’s response.
But we can control whether our hearts remain surrendered to God.
Final Thoughts
One of the greatest lessons from this conversation was that healing begins when we stop asking only, “Who hurt me?” and start asking, “Lord, what are You trying to heal in me?”
That shift changes everything.
God never wastes pain. He uses it to refine our hearts, deepen our compassion, and prepare us to love others more like Christ.
Fractured fellowship doesn’t have to become permanent division.
When we allow God to examine our hearts, produce His fruit within us, and lead us toward forgiveness, He can restore what pain tried to destroy.
Sometimes the greatest miracle isn’t restoring a relationship.
Sometimes it’s restoring you.
Join Us for Episode 3!
The conversation continues on Monday, July 20, 2026, at 7:00 PM CST, as Lady Doris Bryant joins It’s Been a Journey Podcast for Episode 3: “Friendship in the Ministry.”
In a world where genuine friendships can be difficult to find, Lady Doris Bryant has experienced the blessing of having a true, God-ordained friend. Together, we’ll discuss what authentic kingdom friendship looks like, why healthy relationships matter in ministry, and how God uses faithful friends to encourage, sharpen, and strengthen us for His purpose.
You don’t want to miss this inspiring conversation!
Because healing from broken fellowship is only part of the journey—learning how to build and cherish godly friendships is the next step.
We’ll see you Monday, July 20, 2026, at 7:00 PM CST on It’s Been a Journey Podcast.